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Luck Doesn't Exist

I hear people talk about luck a lot. Straightup - luck doesn't exist.

If you believe in luck, then you believe either: (1) some people consistently defy probability, or, (2) some things aren't a result of cause and effect.

Life is a series of probability. Every day, there's a chance that a given set of things will happen. If you want to have a successful life, expose yourself to as much high-upside low-downside probability as you can. Any given thing you do might not work out, but if you expose yourself to high-upside low-downside, good things will happen. Read books, reach out to people, try to get projects working, keep trying to write and build things, keep learning new skills, keep treating people well.

If you want to fail at life, expose yourself to high-downside no-upside probability. This is short term gain at long term expense type stuff. Cigarettes. Unsecured debt for consumption. Most TV.

You'll keep getting "lucky" if you keep exposing yourself to things with upside and limited downside. If you get an amazing job or contract that you had a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting, were you lucky? No, especially not if you applied and pitched 1,000 other places. If you say, "Ok, I'm going to keep trying to get what I want until I do" you'll get it, as long as it's a positive sum game you're playing.

Emotional Intelligence

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Taking the time to learn what emotional intelligence is, and then learning how to develop it will have far reaching impacts in your life. Emotional Intelligence is the concept that Daniel Goleman has popularized with his books on the topic. The basic idea is that emotions affect our lives, whether we want them to or not. So learning how your own emotions work, and then the emotions of others, will create a more enjoyable life for yourself and those around you. The four areas of emotional intelligence are self-management, self-regulation, social awareness, and relationship management. The first step is to recognize your own emotions and what is causing them. Once you have figured out your triggers, you can move on to finding ways to counteract them, which will create a better life overall. Then the exact same concepts are applied to the people around you. With Social Awareness you learn what emotions the people around you are feeling. With relationship management, you create better interactions between people.

The first benefit of emotional intelligence is that you gain a deeper understanding of who you are, and what goes on in your head. I have always been very introspective, working to figure out who I really am. So when I heard about the idea of emotional intelligence, it was something I was interested in learning about. After reading Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and getting just above a passing mark on the quiz inside, I realized how much I had to learn in this area of my life. Looking back, I never gave emotions the respect that they deserve. I always thought that they will were the masters of the uninformed or unintelligent, and that they had no role in the life of an intellectual. What I learned was that by ignoring my emotions, I had in turn become a slave to them. I had no idea when I was getting emotionally triggered, let alone what to do about it.

Once you have figured out your own emotions, and have found ways of dealing with your emotional triggers, the world around you will make so much more sense. Instead of this idea of rationality that economists talk about, you began to see how irrational the world is, and how it linked back to emotions. It becomes obvious how the powers that be manipulate us into doing and saying things that are against our best interest. Advertisers hone in on our emotional deficiencies, saying that if you buy their product you will be happy, cool, have hot girls around you, or whatever. This doesn't make sense when you think about it logically, but when you think about it from an emotional point of view, all the pieces start to come together.

Learning about emotional intelligence and figuring out how to apply it, which is a lifelong process, will have far reaching and lasting impacts. You will be able to deal with the toxic relationships in your life, develop better and deeper friendships, create romantic relationships, develop financial freedom, simplify your life, and live out your dreams. I actually can’t oversell the benefits of emotional intelligence. It has been said that emotions dictate the vast majority of our decisions every day. These decisions begin to come under our control when we figure out the emotions that are triggering them.

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